We are geezers, we are old...and many of us have been married a long time. Over 5 decades ago, we became engaged on Valentine's Day. I tease my geezer that was the last romantic thing he did. It's not really true, but it's a fun thing to say.
We walked down the aisle of destiny over 50 years ago. Who knew what was going to happen? We had debt and dreams. Gee, so did all of our friends. Slowly the debt was paid off and the dreams started to come true. It's been a great adventure.
We had models for a long marriage. My parents were married 59 years. His parents were married for 40 (they were married later in life). Having a model that says long time marriage is possible is a good thing. When you know something is possible, it's easier to do. The modern marriage might not last as long as ours, so future geezers might not have a model of what a long time love affair looks like. That is a sad event.
We celebrated our 40th anniversary on a cruise with another couple who were also celebrating their 40th anniversary. We told everyone we had been married 160 years. The cruise company thought was a cool idea. Now that's a mighty long time. Happy Valentine's Day Geezer.
Nowadays, when I make a call for my geezer, the person on the other end of the line always asks, does he give you permission to talk on his behalf? I say, yes he does....we've been married more than half a century...when the non-geezer hears that, she says something like oh my goodness, that's a long time. It is a long time. A lot of water has gone under the bridge in over five decades. We are creakier and slower and still in love.
Being long-time valentines is not always a piece of cake...but it helps if you marry your best friend. My geezer and I married our best friends. We always liked each other and we've always loved each other. The secret--we respect each other too. BTW marriage is not a 50-50 operation...it's a 100-100 operation. You have to give all you have all the time.
What else do you need to have a live-in valentine? What makes a happy life? There's that old saying "Happy wife, Happy life" that's true...but it also works the other way around "Happy husband, Happy Life." It does not rhyme as well, but it's just as true.
No matter what you do this Valentine's Day...tell your geezer that you love him with all your heart. We are in this together and it's easier when there's a lot of love in the room.
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